Little me at London Fashion Week

I was absolutely thrilled when I received the invitation. Imagine, little me going to London Fashion Week! I am somebody who loves fashion and had put together quite a closet full of designer clothes before I became Muslim.

After I converted, I really struggled. What would I wear? How would I look? What was I going to do with all my clothes? And how could someone so shallow as to love fashion be a good Muslimah!

Well, I adjusted much more easily and quickly than I could have imagined. But the real first step for me was the discovery of a brilliant Muslim designer – Barjis. Once I found her web site, I breathed a sigh of relief. I knew I would be able to find clothes that were beautiful, comfortable and modest.

And a few weeks ago I received an invitation to her first showing at London Fashion Week. What an honour.

For the event, I  mixed and matched pieces from my old and new life: a dress by Alexander McQueen, a skirt by Barjis, a black shrug by Temperley, and I turned one of my Hermes scarves into a hijab.

I was ready for the night!

And I have to say it was better than I imagined.

The people attending the event were a fantastic mix – very artsy progressive men and women and stylish sisters and brothers. The sisters were in hijab and niqab – and I am sure many who did not cover. And one brother had the most amazing multi-coloured dress socks to go with his elegant black suit. Children running around excited for the show to begin added the perfect energy to the evening. So fun!

Of course, the best part was the show itself.

The collection included modest dresses, tops and trousers in wearable colours, including muted greys and browns with splashes of vibrant orange and soft pink. These are beautiful elegant clothes that can be worn by anybody. Appropriate in the work place or out for an evening. Women who wear hijab can feel just as comfortable in these pieces as those who don’t.

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The collection also included ethereal abayas and long dresses. Her abayas have a simple elegance yet always with an unexpected twist – an unusual cut of the neck line that is still modest, and fake fur or colourful decorations that are fun but still chic.

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After the show, winding her way through the crowd in the simplest black abaya and blue hijab was Barjis. About my height (i.e. very short), she is stunning and spent her time talking to everyone who came to the show. (I met her brother too! He was so happy for his sister and so appreciative of all those who came to the event. As well as having an adorable daughter and niece!)

It was a memorable evening and I cannot wait for the clothes to be available for purchase.

Thank you Barjis!

(PS, I found out later that some of the children at the show were there as a result of a contest Barjis ran at her old primary school in order to encourage working-class ethnic children to experience the arts. They were asked to design a print and two of the winners attended the event. Wow. Amazing!)

 

To Hijab or not to Hijab

To hijab or not to hijab. That is the question.

Confession – despite the title of my blog, I do not wear hijab.

But I am absolutely fascinated by it. I know in the west that women wearing hijab receive a lot a looks and glances but I am extreme. I am sure there must be several restraining orders against me as I stare at these women all the time.

I look to see what kind of scarf they are wearing, how they wear it, how they pin it, and how it works with their clothes. And it took me a while to figure out why some women looked a bit StarTrek-ish with an elongated head underneath their hijab. This not a criticism! I wish I had that much hair – I can barely make a pony tail with mine. 🙂

I think the hijab is absolutely beautiful, though I still struggle with the notion of whether it is really required or if it is cultural. Do I have to wear hijab to be Muslim?

A fellow blogger gave me some great advice about making sure I stay who I am as I continue this journey – which was a huge comfort… and a relief. But there is a part of me would like to start wearing a hijab tomorrow whether it is required or not, simply as a visible statement that I am a proud Muslimah!

So what is stopping me?

Well, there is the fact that I am still in the Islamic closet. And wearing hijab is a pretty ‘out’ statement.

But even when I am ready to be out, my other concern is that as beautiful as I view the hijab and the women who wear it, I am fairly certain I will look like an old woman named Olga. There is no need to tell me that modesty is more important than vanity, and that it is what is inside that counts.

So, how to tackle this?

I have read enough to know that just like finding the right haircut, I need to find the right style of wearing the hijab that suits my features. I have a very long face and a high forehead. I’ve researched this on-line, including YouTube videos, but I have not quite figured out what I am doing yet.

My experiment will be when I vacation in Dubai this summer. I plan to wear hijab everyday no matter what I look like – just to see how it feels – to explore if wearing hijab feels right. And I am hoping I can find some women in the shops who can help me figure out the best way to wear it. But if you have suggestions or tips, please let me know!

For those who do wear hijab, why did you choose to wear it? For those who don’t, why not?

Muslim Fashion?

In my journey in Islam, there are many things that I thought would be challenging for me that were not. No drinking, no pork, only helal meat — easy. What is challenging for me, or more challenging than I thought it would be, is the clothes.

I love clothes, shoes, everything. And I have a lot of clothes, shoes, everything. While I never thought I dressed immodestly before I became a Muslim, I am struggling with my old wardrobe in my new life.

I like a sophisticated fashionable look with simple clean lines. I am not trendy as trends typically do not suit me or reflect my personality – but I do enjoy the unusual and a splash of color now and then. Vivian Westwood and Alexander McQueen are two of my favorite designers to give you a flavor of what I mean.

I am also VERY short, so anything that is loose, layered, etc, makes me look sloppy, dumpy and 20 pounds overweight. Now, I realize my ego and pride should not trump modesty and appropriateness, but I do need to feel comfortable and confident.

Furthermore, I work in a corporate environment and the people I work with don’t know I am Muslim…yet.

So what do I do?!?!

I have been wearing more pants, lots of long sleeved body suits under my tops, tights / pants under my dresses and skirts, and always with a scarf. But it does not always feel quite right.

I believe that clothes reflect who you are and I really want to embrace being Muslim in a way that is sophisticated, modest, elegant, appropriate and modern – and doesn’t make me look dumpy and 20 pounds overweight. So, where do I go? Where should I look?

I found Barjis. A very cool site for clothing for “modern Muslim women.” I plan to try their bespoke services when I move to London later this year.

I also found blog spot called hijablicious. It may be a bit young for me, but I am excited to explore it.

Other thoughts, suggestions, tips?

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